Five Dating Myths

Beautiful women are being tricked by society into myths about dating. Today, we are looking at different five myths for society.

MYTH 1: If several friend or family member think that the male is wrong for you, automatically they are wrong.

FALSE: Ever heard of the phrase of 'can't see the forest through the trees'? Your friends and family have your best interest in their hearts; so, if the person was good for you then they should also see that. However if there is some mistakes occurring in your relationship. If you also find something wrong, evaluate if it is wroth keeping.

MYTH 2: Women should feel more comfortable to make the first move.

TRUE: Ever heard that men are more supposed to be more hunters? Sure, but that does not mean they do not to be teased by their prey! Different studies have ranged from 85-90% of body language for the human language; while, there is only 10-15% of human language is verbal. So, smile at the guy and then play with your hair - and have him come rolling over your way.

MYTH 3: Friends leads to lovers. 

DEPENDS:  Common grounds can pull together friends and lovers.  Tim and I became friends before we started to date, with the common interest of role-playing. While CyberPsychology has done a study on Facebook, that states that putting your potential relationship as a friend can lead them to be jealous and have the possibility of not having a relationship. Be careful with getting your potential partner too jealous before a relationship.

MYTH 4: Males like it when you engage them.

TRUE:  Ever heard of the story about being vein? Conversations occur with one speaking, the other listening and responding.


MYTH 5: The first thing a guy notices is your eyes.
FALSE: Ever heard or had to use the phrase "my eyes are up here"? There is a reason that women have to use it. Cosmo and AskMen have taken a study of what men desire more. The result of the study shows 62% of men are checking out for a hot body for the purpose of producing young; while, only 27% are looking into the women's eyes. So, wear something flashy with a slight seductive appeal without crossing the line to tramp.

Five Sexual Myths Revealed

Were you ever shocked to find out what your partner had on her mind? Today, I will uncover five myths with prove studies. Get ready to spice up your mind!   

Myth 1: Men think about sex more than females. 

TRUE: Is it wrong to think about sleeping or eating more? Because, an Ohio State University found that the general male population think about sex, sleeping, and eating more than women do. Men are more pronoun to be thinking of things that they require for survival than women. So, send your partner a naughty text - it is always a great way to spice up the relationship...plus it might lead to something naughty later!

Myth 2: Women get aroused by men who have power and status. 

FALSE: Sure, women have might have a list of desirable; but, women ready for love are willing to have some of those subtracted for the right guy. According to a Northwestern University study, women are more likely to leave behind the need for power and wealth for an actual partner. Be proud of any job that you have; because, with that job you can get the one thing the girl is looking for - a fun date! With August almost done, head over to apple picking or the local beach party.

Myth 3: Women have fewer sexual partners than men. 

DEPENDS: Generally, men try to be more macho by adding two more women by the number of women they have sexual relationships with. Women, on the hand, are afraid to be thought of as sluts and thus tend to minus by two sexual partners. So, how can you learn the truth of how much? Start off slow in the relationship and when the women does not feel judged then ask.

Myth 4: Women organism less frequently than men.

FALSE: Women tend to organism in different rates, while having sexual pleasure. According to an Indian University, women's organism can range from hardly gonna occur to almost always gonna occur. For a first time hook-up, get ready for your partner to hardly occur, at a rate of 32%. Women's organism increases only slightly for repeated hook-ups with a partner to 49%. If you are committed together, women's organism will increase to as high as 79$, because men tend to be more generous during foreplay. Explore your woman's body and take a look at my fore playing blog for further pointers.

Myth 5: Most men want women with hot bodies.

True: Although this may be true, it might come as a shock what general men find is appealing. According to an article in  PLoS one, men under stress prefer a heavier or full-figured woman, rather than a thin one. According to those researchers, men prefer this kind of woman because they come with a more mature physical characteristics; as, they symbolize independence, control, and strength. But hey, let's be honest - as long as you are with one you love why does it really matter what they look like?

Keep love fresh because it can occur all borders, and myths! Until next time...

 

Asperger's Syndrome

Without looking at others knowledge of Asperger Syndrome, I dove into writing about this topic. In that manner, I would like to apologise to everyone if my messages were confusing. The second matter I would like to apologise to everyone about,  was about me having Aspergers.  While my future husband, and on October 25th will become husband, does indeed have Aspergers, I do not. I have ADHD. I apologise for any inconvenience this might have caused you. 

-Lizzie

Approximately one in three hundred people have Aspergers, with some not even knowing it.  Asperger is a type of Autism; but, people with Aspergers have better speech capabilities. Asperger's was described in 1940s by Hans Asperger; when, he found children acting slightly different than 'normal children'. 

Characteristics of Asperger's 

• Good language and cognitive skills
• Frequently like to collect things
• Interested in a couple of few things - and spending most of their time on this
• Finding social situations confusing 
• Empathy is difficult; and, some may have to be reminded that people have feelings
• Most can process average to above average
• Motor skill delay - which might make them appear to be clumsy
• Hard to make small talk 
• Do not enjoy story-telling
• Literal thinker
• Repetitive routines - may appear inflexible
• Other people may think the person is being rude
• Have a difficulty making friends and have very few close friends
• Can focus on things for a long period of time
• Good at picking up details or facts

Awesome People who have Asperger's

• Steven Spielberg (Diagnosed as an adult)
• Courtney Young (Diagnosed as an child - "mild autism")
• Albert Einstein (Suspected?)
• Dan Aykroyd (Diagnosed as a child)
• Daryl Hannah (Diagnosed as an child - "borderline autism"
• My future husband
  
  
  What does that mean? Might mean to get that cute person's attention you need to talk about a certain subject! Until next time...

Lingerie

What can you wear to turn on your partner? Lingerie is said to be for attractive underwear but different for both genders. We gathered up three different types of types of lingerie: full outfit, tan-outfit, and totally revealing.

Full Outfit Lingerie

A full body outfit is sort of like a one-peice swim-suit where it covers everything; especially, how the fine men get to parade around with shirts are unrequited. Men are left doing the one thing they love: imaging what their fine women look like under the attire. Full outfit lingerie is great for when your future fun-mate is sleeping over but you ain't ready to take it to that next step. These outfits can be sexy mini-black dresses that can make a man's arouse stand firm. Women can also find a cute little pajamas; cute little note any pair of pajamas turns on men so you can possibly save money.

Tan-Outfit 

If the full body outfit is a one-piece bathing suit; than, this is like a tan-kine. "Tan" meaning two piece, of course. Men and women can bond in heat where their sexual partner walks around in this. Leaving room for some imagination; but, easier to rip off when the time seems right leaves our partner speech-less.  

 Totally revealing 

Whether it is time for some amazing fun or just what is plain under your cloths, totally revealing lingerie is a fresh way to spice up your ware-robe and make you feel sexy! A tip for the men, attempt to get a color that your girl or guy would love whether it is in boxers or underwear. For the women a tip for searching something for your lover, something matching is sure to have them pulling you to them. In some cultures, within two weeks of purchasing women lingerie for under everything, if a woman is having a sexual relationship with someone, people choose to "break-in" by wearing that during making love.




Whatever you choose to wear for your partner or self; have fun and please join us nest time.




   

Fashion Monday: Safety for Fitness

How many of you do some fitness activities? How can you protect yourself with fitness activities? Today on Fashion Monday, we take a look at 5 different things that can help you have a great work out!  

1.       Consult with your professional. The doctors should know what your body can and cannot do. They may even have something to do while going through rehab. Other professionals you can trust is fitness coaches in your nearby gym.

2.       Have a spotter. This is a great supporter for all fitness activities. They can be your back-up and supporter when you require it. Back-up when you are doing weights is if you accidently give up on the weights they can be there to take it off you. Be sure, that you have someone who can lift up the same weight as you for this. For long walks, a great supporter will push you to your boundaries and then have you walk back. Either one of you should have a great sense of direction. Friends work best for this; but, if you do not have someone you can rely on certain training sites.

3.       Push until your uncomfortable; but not more. Let’s say someone can carry 50 pounds. Then they should try their best with 55 pounds or 60 pounds to allow for a burning sensation. However, do not try to make it up to 70 because you may risk hurting your body.

            Do not work out until an hour later. While you are swimming, your meal becomes an extra weight that you have to swim with. While you can eat certain things to improve on other activities, it is generally a good idea to avoid eating while swimming. I have eaten two course meals than swam within that time; I threw up everything and had to be brought back into my home. You can also stay in the shallow area of a pool if you are just finished eating, that way you can stand up if a leg starts cramping because of the additional weight.

5.       Remember to do exercises before a strenuous activity. Stretching out your body makes it easier to not get hurt. With pointing to your feet and then reaching up. You can also try putting your legs up high to your chest and then kicking your butt.  

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Girl's Guide: Monogamy

Monogamy is having one person to be your partner at a time. In the Holy Bible, it states that a person should be only married to one person at a time. However in the Quran, it states that as long as your first wife approves and you are able to take care of both wives equally, then you are allowed to take on a second wife. Women think before the action of making love to someone but men think after. So why is it so benefit to have monogamy?

The reason why women should seek monogamy in a relationship is it provides stability. The stability allows for a deeper connection with their partner and more happiness. In my own personal experience, when I was in a polygamy relationship with my partner because we had just decided to be friends with benefits, I was miserable. I knew that he was allowed to go out and make love to whatever girl he suited during that night, and I had no say in it. I also knew I had the same right. But men if you are reading this too here is a good point of keeping a relationship working, women need to feel protected and loved in a relationship, we can provide for ourselves.

Men's Guide: Asking the girl out

Most girls desire the guy to make the move to ‘just-friends’ to ‘couple’. But, how are the guys suppose to be making that move in the relationship?

1.       Gauge her interest. Is she is a friend and keep laughing when you tell a bad joke? Does she flirt with you, even if you still a friend?

2.       Notice how often she touches you. Even at a bar, a girl will brush her leg against yours or lightly touch your hand. Your friend might hold your hand or look for reasons to touch you.

3.       Observe how she looks at you. She may be smiling and flipping her hair then turning away as a great top. If you’re having a conversation, she will be looking at you and hopefully smiling.

4.       Look directly at her. She needs to feel that she trusts you. By looking down at her chest you are subjecting her.

5.       Help her out. If you are close friends, take her stuff when she needs something done. If you are meeting at an area at the first time, this might mean that you buy her a beverage.

6.       Be confident. Everyone has some good traits about them that one person will like. Learn to like yourself and then things will work out.

7.       Throw yourself out there. Be ready to ask if they want to do an activity with you.

8.       If it does not turn out, stay out there. There are other fish in the sea. Or, it could be that she does not like the activity.  

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Interview: When Long-distance relationships become strained

Hey everyone, catch this! I am your host Lizzie with ETH. Today, we are gathered here with Mr. Gloud, someone who has no social challenges but has experiences with dating one. Who has experienced a connection as an ex-fiancée with someone who has Aspersers. How long were you dating her?
I believe over a year, then off and on, then about a year
What did you believe the hardest thing about the relationship was?
The distance
Long distance can be tough. What is the advice you would give someone who was looking for the same type of relationship?
Try to make sure you have a good call plan, or use messangers to help keep costs down if possible
Okay, how hard is it to keep a friendship with the same girl you almost married?
For me its not too hard, just knowing they are being taken care of is good enough for me.
As the friend and an ex-partner, do you feel that her social challenges had any effect on your relationship?
Yes, she would talk to me often about various issues in her life which considering it was a distance relationship made me felt as if I was carrying extra baggage.
Do you have any advice who was in your position?
Try to handle things level headed and if it starts to become too much let the other person know.

In your opinion who do you believe is better suited for someone who has a social challenge? A person with the same social challenge or someone who does not. And, why?

Supposedly people with similar challenges are not supposed to be together, though I believe it differs from person to person.

Last week, we had a person stating that his girlfriend and him have issues with communication and compassion. How did you resolve this in your pervious relationship and current relationship?
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Last week, we discussed Dr. John Gray's idea that men sometimes go into their caves. According to Dr. John Gray, women need to respect the guy's private times. How do you feel that this has played a role in your relationship with her?
It wouldn't have hurt to be honest
Thank you for this interview. I am your host Lizzie from ETH. Remember, true love conquers all challenges. Until next time, where we interview a mother who says her daughter is her biggest hero because of her social challenge!

Women's Guide: Lovers to Friends

“Is it appropriate to have your ex-boyfriend as your friend?”

-Holly, Canada

Many people have an issue with whether or not an ex-partner can be friends.  Although many people will disagree to being friends after a horrible break-up, how do you know if it is appropriate to continue to friendships?
“Let’s just be friends.” But what does it mean to be friends? In some ways being friends with your ex-boyfriend is harder than being friends with someone who was not. If you are willing to put your past relationship aside you can possibly have a friendship. Here is some great tips to continue to be friends with an ex.

How to stay friends after a break-up:

1.       Evaluate whether this is the best course of action. Was it a horrible break up where one or the both of you has been infected over it? Example: if one of you has humiliated the other person in front of your friends; then, it might not be the best of choices.

2.       Allow time to heal. Have you both gotten over the break-up? I have a friend who still tells his ex-girlfriend that he wants to marry her. For approximately 2-3 months, but can take longer or shorter, after the break up heal your broken heart.

3.       A break up is a break-up; if not, then it is not. This is a time to avoid having sex with each other otherwise you may start being girlfriend and boyfriend again. My fiancée and I had flirted on each other while we were broken up and eventually realized we were too good together to stay broken up.

4.       A partner is a partner; and an ex is an ex.  Just like number three there are boundaries, the people must appreciate the new bonds in their ex-partner’s life. Do not glare at the new partner or state that you want to be that person.

5.       Take it slow! Remember, not necessarily will you want to be ‘friends’ all the time. Sometimes it might still sting when you least expect it. If friendship does not work out come together, discuss it with your ex to what should happen. Your current partner or their current partner might also have a say in whether or not is a good idea.

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Guy's Guide: Communication verbal and non-verbal

“I believe it is most important to have compassion, communication, and commitment in a relationship. While I am very committed to my girlfriend, we tend to lack at the other two. Is there any advice you would give us?”

- Brandon, USA

Last week, I answered the questions of compassion. As compassion is the ability and desire to understand what the other person requires. Yesterday, we learned how important that communication is in a long-distance relationship, with Ally. Communication can be divided into verbal and non-verbal.

Verbal

Words can tell elaborate details of people’s stories.  Words can explain what the other person needs for their caves or physical touch. This is where people with Asperger’s succeed because they cannot lie; but, may explain something until someone else understands what they are saying.

Steve Lowell has a wonderful training area of this. The ‘I’ or what you require is the First-circle, for his public speakers students, that is all about what they require and want. This is hard for other people to listen to, as Toby Keith’s song says “I want to talk about me”. The Third-Circle, for his public speakers students, tells about their personal stories. The most desiring circle is the second circle, for his public speaker students, it allows people to have their own desire to speak and relate (Lowell 2012).

Non-verbal

There has been many studies that show approximately between 80%-95% of communication is based on non-verbal. Non-verbal is tone of pitch, body language, and volume. The ability of non-verbal provides: enforcement of words, replacement of words, and to over-ride words. This is the most difficult to people who have Asperger’s as this seems to be a foreign concept to them. It takes a long time for someone to get motor-focus therefore others may come across as awkward.

Michael John Carley has made two different suggestions of improving your non-verbal skills: acting class and videos. Acting class is an amazing way to understand how important and what you require for non-verbal (Carley 2008). As an actress, myself, I had moved from playing the dog part because of how I did not understand the human non-verbal. After taking several courses where I learned what a simple hand gesture meant I moved to a role where all I had was non-verbal skills.  Video taking is another way to improve your non-verbal skills; by first video tapping yourself and then taking tips from your friends (Carley 2008). For another example, I took my very first video with Ally. After my Toastmaster’s group, my friends made suggestions of how to improve my own non-verbal. Now, I can improve my interview skills.

Bibliography

Carley, Michael John. Asperger's from the Inside Out. New York: Perigee Book, 2008.

Lowell, Steve, interview by Alfonso Caudra. Success By Design (2012).

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